On a happy note..
Happy Mother's Day
Now, I'll start with the gloomy family politics I find rather stupid. And all this fake happy together front annoys me.
Setting:
The neighbourhood I live in are mostly occupied by my aunts and uncles. And the other houses not occupied by us, belongs to us and are being rented out to other people. It's not a big neighbourhood. Don't exaggerate the story in your head. There are still a few houses around that belongs to other people.
I live on a two storey house. Upstairs. My cousin (2nd uncle) lives downstairs. Someone is renting a house on the left that belongs to my dad. Another family bought the house on the right that belonged to my eldest aunt. She lives opposite our house. Another cousin of mine (4th uncle) lives on her right. And 2 houses in front of theirs. One (for rent) belongs to them (4th uncle) and the other house (for rent) belongs to my cousin (2nd uncle) who lives downstairs.
I'll stop there in case people get even more confused.
Initially my parents build this house (one storey with garage just below but extended the construction to make rooms below as well for -->) and my 2nd uncle wanted to stay in too. My dad refused but got scolded by my grandfather. So my parents had no choice but to let my uncle and his family stay. Until now, my parents couldn't really ask them to move out. My uncle built this storeroom + garage at the back - more about this later.
My cousin (4th uncle) has a maid that got married today. She had a discussion with the family wishing to stay/rent the room behind our house (at the store room). Just for sleeping because she intends to stay with her husband. So my cousin (Bono) and her dad (4th uncle) said ok, they'll try to ask.
Bono started by asking my uncle who lives downstairs a few days ago. They said 'yes it's fine but you need to let upstairs (us) know as well incase they disapprove'. So, my cousin asked my dad after lunch about it but she didnt mention that her maid was getting married (like today) so my dad was okay with it. I did tell her that she should have asked my mom instead because my dad don't have the oomph to say what he thinks.
SUDDENLY, on a 3 seater sofa. From left to right. My mom, uncle's wife (downstairs) and bono was watching tv. Then middle lady turned to my mom, 'ey.. i heard Bono's maid is moving in to the storeroom behind'. JUST LIKE THAT! My mom didn't even know about it so she was shocked. So Bono tried to explained things saying that her maid just got married and wanted a place to stay with her husband.
My mom being MY MOM.
She started with, 'No I won't allow it! If you're going to let ur maid stay then its fine but if she's getting married her husband could just stop working and live off her. We're planning to get a maid and there is no place for her upstairs so we were planning to have her sleep at the back of the house. If there were any problems later on then it would be difficult to ask her to leave. Then, it'll just make us look like the bad guys. If you're going to have a maid live at our place then would you like it if our (future) maid live in your house?'
Do you realise how long winded my mom is? Now add this with her usual exaggerated emotion like as if she was scolding. Years ago she would say to me, "I'm not scolding you, I'm just telling you". Yea right.
My cousin was frustrated and found her rude for speaking to my aunt and her like that.
I told her this
"My mom doesn't know the definition of 'asking for permission'? Every question to her is like a request or a statement."
She could have just said, "Sorry, but I don't think it is a good idea for your maid to stay there because we were planning to let our maid stay there once we get one."
But NOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO. She has to fucking make it sound like it was something epic.
I remember the other day I was thinking of painting my door red and black or either one - but only really think about doing it when I'm bored shitless. I was just wondering if there was any bad luck in painting a door that colour. Being asian. So I asked her, "is there anything about having bad luck if i paint my door in black or red colour?" She just said, "don't". So, I said again, "I'm asking IF there is any bad luck in using these colours for doors?". "Don't!" she said. =.= It is frustrating.
Just now she came into my room talking about the maid situation. I told her she could have just said no and give a simple reason instead of making a big deal out of it. She still went on about the difficulties of this and that and what happened in the past. I cut her off and said, "I dont want to hear anymore, like I said, you don't need to repeat everything and give different examples". Yet she went on. So I just stopped looking at her and went on doing what I was doing. She eventually left my room but still talking. So I closed the door.
I know it's rude. But she doesn't listen.
This goes to the people who lives downstairs.
Remember when they said ok to Bono? It's because they didn't have the heart to say no. That was why my aunt started the conversation at the sofa. After mentioning about the maid intending to move behind, she was actually tugging on my mom's shirt to tell her to say no to Bono.
How coward is that.
Need to move out of this place soon. This way they'll be tolerable if I only see them a few times a year.
Loves,
N
P/s: When I metioned storeroom. It's actually one room for keeping junk and another room that has always been a maid's quarter (whenever the family downstairs have one) and garage space as well.
