First and foremost if you do not love yourself it is kind of hard to share that with anyone. Love does not mean that you will be loved in return, it simply requires that you are willing to try. Marrriage is not for everyone , but for some it is a wonderful experience. Think of it as someone who is willing to put up with you despite the faults we have, and will try to be there until the end. Sometimes this works out and sometimes not. One thing I can tell you is of its not for you dont do it. Longevity in anything requires patience ,understanding,empathy and determination. People now are not willing to work out their problems as soon as thier is trouble, run for the divorce court. You work at relationships just like a job, you may get a promotion, demotion or might transfer to another department, yet you still work for the same company.