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Size: Large, Medium, Small Thu Apr 17, 08 10:48 AM | Category: psycology
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The word charisma (from the Greek word χάρισμα (kharisma), "gift" or "divine favor," from kharizesthai, "to favor," from kharis, "favor": see also charism, Charis) refers to a rare trait found in certain human personalities usually including extreme charm and a 'magnetic' quality of personality and/or appearance along with innate and powerfully sophisticated personal communicability and persuasiveness.

(from Wikipedia)

 

According to Weber, charisma is defined thus:

...a certain quality of an individual personality, by virtue of which s/he is "set apart" from ordinary people and treated as endowed with supernatural, superhuman, or at least specifically exceptional powers or qualities. These as such are not accessible to the ordinary person, but are regarded as divine in origin or as exemplary, and on the basis of them the individual concerned is treated as a leader.

 

In some cases highly-extroverted and brutally controlling charismatic leaders have used their personal charisma in extremely destructive and damaging ways throughout human history, for example, Adolf Hitler.

 

 

Lucky ones

But don't despair if you haven't got these qualities because you can learn them. Professor Wiseman estimates charisma is 50% innate and 50% trained. His tips include keeping an open body posture and communicating your ideas clearly.

 

You're unaware you're mimicking this person, although you know they make you feel happy, he says.

A charismatic person has three attributes, says the professor:

 

  • they feel emotions themselves quite strongly;
  • they induce them in others;
  • and they are impervious to the influences of other charismatic people.
Winston Churchill
It's not about sex appeal....

Broadcaster and confidence tutor Jeremy Milnes agrees that techniques can make a huge transformation, and says nearly all the people he's worked with have improved. Key areas are listening, asking questions and not trying too hard to be the centre of attention.

 

"There are some people who are just lucky buggers and are just naturally charismatic, like Johnny Depp, David Bowie and Marilyn Monroe," he says. "But I honestly believe that these are techniques and skills which can be learnt and practised and can be made part of your own behaviour.

"I don't deny there's a bit of magic there, but these are things which can be worked on. They're not out of people's reach. You might not learn them all but you may be comfortable with some of them.

Scientists claim to have found the secret to that magical quality, charisma, and they say it can be learnt. But before you enrol for classes, don't think it will get you the job of your dreams.

 

Willy Loman in Arthur Miller's Death of a Salesman is deluded in believing that charisma, or being "well-liked" as he calls it, is more important than ability in making a person a success.

His philosophy is exposed as flawed but he did have half a point. After all, most of the greatest leaders in history possessed a star quality that drew others to them.

Churchill, Napoleon and Martin Luther King had a magnetism which is often easier to identify than it is to explain.

Until now.

 

Researchers say having an infectious personality induces others to copy your body language and facial expressions.

The study, led by British Professor Richard Wiseman, involved more than 200 people taking part in FameLab, a national competition to find the new "faces of science". The ones who scored highest in a questionnaire about how much they seem to transmit their emotions to others also progressed the furthest in the competition, when they used their personalities to impress a panel of judges.

"When you see someone else who has charisma, without realising it, you're mimicking their posture and their facial expressions," says Professor Wiseman, a psychologist. "An obvious example is when someone smiles at you and you smile back. And how you hold yourself influences your emotions."

 

Charisma plays a huge part in bringing success because it goes hand-in-hand with self-confidence, he says. But although it can be learnt, it can't be faked.

"Whatever skills and techniques you have are routed from your own personality, so you don't come across as fake or insincere. There's nothing worse than that."

Michael Mallows, an author and personal development coach, says whether the group he addresses is five, 50 or 500, he usually has their full attention within 10 minutes. Although he teaches people to keep their integrity and avoid over-selling themselves in interviews, it can happen.

 

"A lot of work I do is with people who did fabulous interviews but are then not up to the job," he says. "There could have been some rapport in the interview between you and one key person on the panel, but then in the job the people don't like your style and you can't understand why your natural charm isn't enough."

But recruitment consultants say charisma is not enough to con a good interviewer.

 

 

HOW TO BE MORE CHARISMATIC
General: Open body posture, hands away from face when talking, stand up straight, relax, hands apart with palms forwards or upwards
To an individual: Let people know they matter and you enjoy being around them, develop a genuine smile, nod when they talk, briefly touch them on the upper arm, and maintain eye contact
To a group: Be comfortable as leader, move around to appear enthusiastic, lean slightly forward and look at all parts of the group
Message: Move beyond status quo and make a difference, be controversial, new, simple to understand, counter-intuitive
Speech: Be clear, fluent, forceful and articulate, evoke imagery, use an upbeat tempo, occasionally slow for tension or emphasis
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noural (Makeda) Thu Apr 17, 08 03:55 PM

Interesting topic... What I really do not like is the fact that people develop their charisma to manipulate others...I think that when we really want to help others like Mother Teresa no need to learn some technics but if we want to be a good leader in politic, business...we really need it.

"We must learn to live together like Brothers and Sisters or we will die like fools."
sv_iv (Svetlana) Thu Apr 17, 08 04:52 PM

We have always to keep in mind that some people try to manipulate us...

The Hitler is the best example of this.... But for to lead or manage other people, we have not to be influenced ourselves. This is why we should study and understand this things. There is very difficult sometimes not to be manipulated. Recognizing the thrue, good charisma, from the faked one is the first step to our independency..

If you want to change the world, start by changing yourself
walyy Thu Apr 17, 08 04:10 PM
monti_84 Fri Apr 18, 08 03:12 AM

Charisma is a lead feature of a leader...and it is a powerful tool to built or to destroy...

"To define is to limit" Oscar Wilde
kraculy Fri Apr 18, 08 08:46 AM

It is sad that you can use charisma in a good or an evil way. I prefer good :)

Don´t worry be happy! (Bobby McFerrin 1988)
christara Fri Apr 18, 08 03:40 PM

good post very interesting....

all the best wish,s to you.......

take care

laters byeeeeeeeeeeeeee

its just mad being mad-its just crazy being crazy-but its great just being me
Ichisanno (Michi) Sat Apr 19, 08 07:01 AM

v.

Wish I Had An Angel
greta_garbage (gretagarbage) Sun Apr 20, 08 06:30 AM

some people ore born with it, others try to build it/i give advantage to the natural ones, though

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Gorgoroth_72 Sun Apr 20, 08 08:12 PM

I am sorry for not voting for you last time, i have only been here for some day now, and don't know of all the features on this site yet.

I will definitely come back to se what you are up to. I will take a look at the posts you gave me tomorrow, but for now i will have to go to bed. I'm of to work in just a few hours. Se you, and have a really nice day.


debsha Mon Apr 21, 08 07:47 AM

I agree with kraculy it is sad that it is used for bad aswell as good.

Be well & happy
dave195809 (south african dave) Tue Apr 22, 08 11:09 AM

good voted

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