The Top 5 Reasons Most People Fail at Achieving Their Goals
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Thu May 1, 08 05:35 PM
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By Nina East
As you read these, be honest with yourself , but not harsh. Take the time to answer the questions and think about alternate ways of doing things.
Reason #1: People don’t take action. OK, this sounds obvious. Surely we all know that we have to take action in order to get somewhere. Even so, you would not believe how many people I talk with who sit there and wonder why their life doesn’t go the way they want it. The thing is that they often don’t know what action to take, OR, they aren’t being honest with themselves about whether they really are taking action. Here are some questions to consider: If you had already achieved your goal, what actions would you have taken to get there? What do you feel inspired to do right now? What are 20 possible actions you could take? Which ones are the most inspiring?
What I’ve realized is that I get so juiced by creating new ideas that I have to pay attention to actually taking action.
Reason #2: People are afraid. They might be afraid of failure, or of success. And sometimes they are afraid of both. Usually when we are afraid to go for our goals, it is because of a belief we have about what it means to achieve it, or to go for it and not quite make it.
So the solution is to get really honest about the truth of the situation. Ask yourself questions that give you a different perspective: What is scary about having this goal come true for me? What is scariest about going for it and not making it? What am I really afraid of? Where does it come from? Is it REALLY true? Really? What’s the real truth about this situation? Do I actually want this goal?
Reason #3: People have poor internal programming. Think of yourself like a computer - whatever you put in affects what you get out. As you set goals and think about achieving them and the actions required to achieve them, what thoughts are you “putting in”? What is the internal dialogue you have running? What do you imagine will happen? If this goal were already achieved, how would I feel? What would be different in my life?
Imagine yourself (or your business) with the goal already achieved. Imagine it in Technicolor ways. Describe your experience to someone else (or yourself) as if it were already true. How did it feel taking the steps to achieve it? What did you learn? What did you like best?
Reason #4: People’s environments don’t make success automatic. Most of us have been taught to use willpower to get ourselves to do what needs to be done. While that can work short term, it is also draining and doesn’t usually sustain the change or action. Instead, think about designing your environments to get you to do what you know/think you ought to be doing. In your physical environment - What are the obstacles/distractions that make it hard for you to follow-through? How could you change or remove them? In your support/administrative environment - What sort of prompts or triggers can you set up to remind you and nudge you to follow-through on things?
What about your human environment? Who do you surround yourself with? What other “environments” can you think of? How would you redesign them to support you better?
Reason #5: People give up too early. Yep, while most of us like to think of ourselves as persistent, the truth is most of us give up just before we are about to have a breakthrough. We let discouragement and obstacles become barriers, rather than using them as launching pads for the next approach. What if your last discouragement actually holds within it the key to getting what you want? How important is this goal to you? If it is a “must”, then you can’t give up. That doesn’t mean you beat your head against the wall doing the same thing over and over again, but it also means you find another approach. What if all of this is perfect and teaching you exactly what you need to know? What would you do then?
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http://blog.bitcomet.com/svetlana/post_23497/
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