You have probably heard a thousand pick
up lines. Infact, you have probably even
tried a few. And let me guess, most did not
work did they?
That's to be expected. The female sex is an
interesting bunch and men have been trying
to find the best way to approach and attract
women for thousands of years.
Guys will use all sorts of tactics to try to
grab their attention. Some will buy them a
drink. Some will try to show off their
muscles while others will try a variety of
corny pick-up lines.
In reality, all these tactics can be
counterproductive. Girls, especially
attractive ones, get offered drinks and hear
standard pick-up lines every night they go
out.
They are used to this attention and see
guys flaunting themselves in front of them
all the time. It's standard issue for them, and
if you use the same methods you then
become just another desperate guy trying to
get in their pants. DO NOT fall into this trap.
The key to approaching women is to make it
appear that you are engaging in
conversation simply out of convenience.
You do not want them to think you are
hitting on them, but rather that you are
simply talking to them because they happen
to be there.
It can be tricky, but there a few ways you
can achieve this.
If you see a girl you are interested in or
attracted to, do not just go up and start
talking. You have to be in their general
proximity for a reason.
If they are at the bar, maybe you are there
just to get a drink. Or a friend of yours is
standing around her and you went over to
talk to him.
I like to position myself close to my "target"
and establish that there is a reason I am
there before I say a word to her.
At first, when you assume your position
close to her, go against any urge to gawk,
stare or pay attention to her.
Make it clear you are not there for her.
When you do actually speak to her, she will
be convinced she was just lucky enough to
be standing near you at that time.
So what do you say? My favourite "opener"
is a question that asks for an opinion. It
makes it seems like you are just asking for
her opinion on an issue that is on your mind
rather than talking to her because you want
to impress her.
One I love using is "Hey, let me ask you
something. I just talked to my friend who
broke up with this girl he has been seeing
for a couple of months. Well, he broke up
with her by text message. Do you think it's
ok to breakup with someone by text
message?"
When you are delivering this line make sure
you are smiling, standing tall and deliver it
with confidence.
It's important not to show your nerves in
your body language. And make it funny!
This topic opens up a whole bunch of doors
and usually the girl will think it is quirky and
funny. Try to make her laugh and always
have a few follow up lines waiting that are
funny.
For example, if she automatically says no
and claims your friend is a jerk, you can say
something like "Yeah, I think he is just bitter
since his last girlfriend broke up with him on
MSN messenger."
You can then launch into a story about this
breakup.....there is lots of opportunity to
make it funny.
The initial approach is all about being
casual and having the girl not interpret your
actions as "picking her up". The opinion
opener does exactly this as long as you
make it appear that you are honestly just
picking their head. There are tons of
options.
Some others include "Who do you think lie
more often? Girls or guys?" or "My 16 year
old sister wants to get a tattoo of her
boyfriends name but I really don't think it's
great idea. What do you think?"
These lines can open up some awesome
conversations. If you have a casual and
unique approach followed by funny and
interesting conversation, you are on your
way to attracting that girl you never
dreamed would pay attention to you!
You see, learning how to approach and
attract women can be fun and easy! Next
time you are out on the town, try out some
of these techniques.
This lesson is simply a small part of the art
of seduction. The quality of the available
information on social dynamics, sexual skills
and how to succeed with women has vastly
improved and offers any guy an opportunity
to be successful with the woman of their
dreams.
