Entitlement Quiz
I have devised an "Entitlement Quiz" for you to take. For each of the fifteen
statements, mark a number from one to seven which gauges your personal feeling
about the statement (one being the most disagreement and seven
being the most agreement). Please answer the questions below using the following scale:
Strongly
Disagree |
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Strongly
Agree |
Do not spend too much time on any one item. Also please respond in terms of
how you really feel as opposed to how you think you should feel. Try to avoid
using the neutral response if possible.
______ 1. I deserve respect from others.
______ 2. I demand good service in a restaurant.
______ 3. My closest friends owe me loyalty.
______ 4. I expect fairness from others.
______ 5. I'm owed a good-paying job for my abilities.
______ 6. People should treat me the way I treat them.
______ 7. When I do something nice for someone, I expect
them to do something nice for me.
______ 8. I deserve a "thank you" when I hold a door open for someone or let
someone ahead of me in traffic.
______ 9. People should listen to what I have to say.
______ 10. I often feel "owed" for things I have done.
______ 11. Other people have told me I expect too much.
______ 12. All in all, I deserve a good life.
______ 13. I am entitled to "life, liberty, and the pursuit of happines."
______ 14. I find myself getting angry inside when others don't do things for
me they said they would.
______ 15. My children owe me cooperation and obedience for all the sacrifices
I have made for them.
Add all of the numbers of your fifteen responses, then divide that total by
fifteen. The number you are left with will show you on the scale how convinced
you are that you are "entitled" to certain things.
If you score from one to four, you really are not expecting much from other
people in the way of gratitude, approval, and response. As such, you probably
won't be disappointed in life when such responses aren't forthcoming. If you
score from five to seven, you are probably a person who is carrying a lot of
internal anger over the fact that not enough people give you what you feel
entitled to. If this is the case, you need to readjust your expectations the
way Stan and Julie did. You need to remind yourself that you are "owed" nothing
for all you do and that people have the perfect freedom to fly in the face of
what you want. You need to remember that the challenge is to do things for
people because it's healthy or mature or "right", not because you can earn
"green stamps" that you can cash in whenever you want.
Painful as it is, you are not entitled. Don't let that truth get too far
away from you in life.
