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Fri May 30, 08 08:04 PM | Category: All

The Spread of a World Creed

Lucy Berrington finds the Muslim Faith is winning Western admirers despite hostile media coverage.

Unprecedented numbers of British people, nearly all of them women, are converting to Islam at a time of deep divisions within the Anglican and Catholic churches.

The rate of conversions has prompted predictions that Islam will rapidly become an important religious force in this country.  “Within the next 20 years the number of British converts will equal or overtake the immigrant Muslim community that brought the faith here”, says Rose Kendrick, a religious education teacher at a Hull comprehensive and the author of a textbook guide to the Koran.  She says: “Islam is as much a world faith as is Roman Catholicism.  No one nationality claims it as its own”.  Islam is also spreading fast on the continent and in America.

The surge in conversions to Islam has taken place despite the negative image of the faith in the Western press.  Indeed, the pace of conversions has accelerated since publicity over the Salman Rushdie affair, the Gulf War and the plight of the Muslims in Bosnia.  It is even more ironic that most British converts should be women, given the widespread view in the west that Islam treats women poorly.  In the United States, women converts outnumber men by four to one, and in Britain make up the bulk of the estimated 10, 000 to 20, 000 converts, forming part of a Muslim community of 1 to 1.5 million.  Many of Britains “New Muslims” are from middle-class backgrounds.  They include Matthew Wilkinson, a former head boy of Eton who went on to Cambridge, and a son and daughter of Lord Justice Scott, the judge heading the arms-to-Iraq enquiry.

A small scale survey by the Islamic Foundation in Leicester suggests that most converts are aged 30 to 50.  Younger Muslims point to many conversions among students and highlight the intellectual thrust of Islam.  “Muhammad” said, “The light of Islam will rise in the West”[1]  and I think that is what is happening in our day” says Aliya Haeri, an American-born psychologist who converted 15 years ago.  She is a consultant to the Zahra Trust, a charity publishing spiritual literature and is one of Britain’s prominent Islamic speakers.  She adds: “Western converts are coming to Islam with fresh eyes, without all the habits of the East, avoiding much of what is culturally wrong.  The purest tradition is finding itself strongest in the West.”

Some say the conversions are prompted by the rise of comparative religious education.  The British media, offering what Muslims describe as a relentless bad press on all things Islamic, is also said to have helped.  Westerners despairing of their own society - rising in crime, family breakdown, drugs and alcoholism - have come to admire the discipline and security of Islam.  Many converts are former Christians disillusioned by the uncertainty of the church and unhappy with the concept of the Trinity and deification of Jesus.
Quest of the Convert - Why Change?

Other converts describe a search for a religious identity.  Many had previously been practising Christians but found intellectual satisfaction in Islam.  “I was a theology student and it was the academic argument that led to my conversion.”  Rose Kendrick, a religious education teacher and author, said she objected to the concept of the original sin: “Under Islam, the sins of the fathers aren’t visited on the sons.  The idea that God is not always forgiving is blasphemous to Muslims.

Maimuna, 39, was raised as a High Anglican and confirmed at 15 at the peak of her religious devotion.  “I was entranced by the ritual of the High Church and thought about taking the veil.”  Her crisis came when a prayer was not answered.  She slammed the door on visiting vicars but travelled to convents for discussions with nuns.  “My belief came back stronger, but not for the Church, the institution or the dogma.”  She researched every Christian denomination, plus Judaism, Buddhism and Krishna Consciousness, before turning to Islam.

Many converts from Christianity reject the ecclesiastical heirarchy emphasising Muslims’ direct relationship with God.  They sense a lack of leadership in the Church of England and are suspicious of its apparent flexibility.  “Muslims don’t keep shifting their goal-posts ,” says Huda Khattab, 28, author of The Muslim Woman’s Handbook, published this year by Ta-Ha.  She converted ten years ago while studying Arabic at university.  “Christianity changes, like the way some have said pre-marital sex is okay if its with the person you’re going to marry.  It seems so wishy-washy.  Islam was constant about sex, about praying five times a day.  The prayer makes you conscious of God all the time.  You’re continually touching base.

The Times - Tuesday, 9th November 1993 - Home-news Page

Footnotes:

[1] There is no such statement by Prophet Muhammad, may the blessing and mercy of God be upon him – IslamReligion.

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Fri May 30, 08 07:56 PM | Category: All

I used to look at veiled women as quiet, oppressed creatures -- until I was captured by the Taliban.  In September 2001, just 15 days after the terrorist attacks on the United States, I snuck into Afghanistan, clad in a head-to-toe blue burqa, intending to write a newspaper account of life under the repressive regime.  Instead, I was discovered, arrested and detained for 10 days.  I spat and swore at my captors; they called me a “bad” woman but let me go after I promised to read the Quran and study Islam.  (Frankly, I’m not sure who was happier when I was freed -- they or I.) Back home in London, I kept my word about studying Islam -- and was amazed by what I discovered.  I’d been expecting Quran chapters on how to beat your wife and oppress your daughters; instead, I found passages promoting the liberation of women.  Two-and-a-half years after my capture, I converted to Islam, provoking a mixture of astonishment, disappointment and encouragement among friends and relatives.

Now, it is with disgust and dismay that I watch here in Britain as former foreign secretary Jack Straw[1]  describes the Muslim nikab -- a face veil that reveals only the eyes -- as an unwelcome barrier to integration, with Prime Minister Tony Blair, writer Salman Rushdie and even Italian Prime Minister Romano Prodi leaping to his defense.  Having been on both sides of the veil, I can tell you that most Western male politicians and journalists who lament the oppression of women in the Islamic world have no idea what they are talking about.  They go on about veils, child brides, female circumcision, honor killings and forced marriages, and they wrongly blame Islam for all this -- their arrogance surpassed only by their ignorance.  These cultural issues and customs have nothing to do with Islam.  A careful reading of the Quran shows that just about everything that Western feminists fought for in the 1970s were available to Muslim women 1,400 years ago.  Women in Islam are considered equal to men in spirituality, education and worth, and a woman’s gift for childbirth and child-rearing is regarded as a positive attribute.  When Islam offers women so much, why are Western men so obsessed with Muslim women’s attire?  Even British government ministers Gordon Brown and John Reid have made disparaging remarks about the nikab -- and they hail from across the Scottish border, where men wear skirts.

When I converted to Islam and began wearing a headscarf, the repercussions were enormous.  All I did was cover my head and hair -- but I instantly became a second-class citizen.  I knew I’d hear from the odd Islamophobe, but I didn’t expect so much open hostility from strangers.  Cabs passed me by at night, their “for hire” lights glowing.  One cabbie, after dropping off a white passenger right in front of me, glared at me when I rapped on his window, then drove off.  Another said, “Don’t leave a bomb in the back seat” and asked, “Where’s bin Laden hiding?”  Yes, it is a religious obligation for Muslim women to dress modestly, but the majority of Muslim women I know like wearing the hijab, which leaves the face uncovered, though a few prefer the nikab.  It is a personal statement: My dress tells you that I am a Muslim and that I expect to be treated respectfully, much as a Wall Street banker would say that a business suit defines him as an executive to be taken seriously.  And, especially among converts to the faith like me, the attention of men who confront women with inappropriate, leering behavior is not tolerable.

I was a Western feminist for many years, but I’ve discovered that Muslim feminists are more radical than their secular counterparts.  We hate those ghastly beauty pageants, and tried to stop laughing in 2003 when judges of the Miss Earth competition hailed the emergence of a bikini-clad Miss Afghanistan, Vida Samadzai, as a giant leap for women’s liberation.  They even gave Samadzai a special award for “representing the victory of women’s rights.”  Some young Muslim feminists consider the hijab and the nikab political symbols, too, a way of rejecting Western excesses such as binge drinking, casual sex and drug use.  What is more liberating: being judged on the length of your skirt and the size of your surgically enhanced breasts, or being judged on your character and intelligence?  In Islam, superiority is achieved through piety -- not beauty, wealth, power, position or sex.

I didn’t know whether to scream or laugh when Italy’s Prodi joined the debate last week by declaring that it is “common sense” not to wear the nikab because it makes social relations “more difficult.”  Nonsense.  If this is the case, then why are cell phones, landlines, e-mail, text messaging and fax machines in daily use?  And no one switches off the radio because they can’t see the presenter’s face.  Under Islam, I am respected.  It tells me that I have a right to an education and that it is my duty to seek out knowledge, regardless of whether I am single or married.  Nowhere in the framework of Islam are we told that women must wash, clean or cook for men.  As for how Muslim men are allowed to beat their wives -- it’s simply not true.  Critics of Islam will quote random Quranic verses or Hadith, but usually out of context.  If a man does raise a finger against his wife, he is not allowed to leave a mark on her body, which is the Quran’s way of saying, “Don’t beat your wife, stupid.”  It is not just Muslim men who must reevaluate the place and treatment of women.  According to a recent National Domestic Violence Hotline survey, 4 million American women experience a serious assault by a partner during an average 12-month period.  More than three women are killed by their husbands and boyfriends every day -- that is nearly 5,500 since 9/11.

Violent men don’t come from any particular religious or cultural category; one in three women around the world has been beaten, coerced into sex or otherwise abused in her lifetime, according to the hotline survey.  This is a global problem that transcends religion, wealth, class, race and culture.  But it is also true that in the West, men still believe that they are superior to women, despite protests to the contrary.  They still receive better pay for equal work -- whether in the mailroom or the boardroom -- and women are still treated as sexualized commodities whose power and influence flow directly from their appearance.  And for those who are still trying to claim that Islam oppresses women, recall this 1992 statement from the Rev.  Pat Robertson, offering his views on empowered women: Feminism is a “socialist, anti-family political movement that encourages women to leave their husbands, kill their children, practice witchcraft, destroy capitalism and become lesbians.”  Now you tell me who is civilized and who is not.

(Yvonne Ridley is political editor of Islam Channel TV in London and co-author of “In the Hands of the Taliban: Her Extraordinary Story.”)

Footnotes:

[1] For his statements, please see : (http://news.bbc.co.uk/2/hi/uk_news/politics/5410472.stm and http://news.bbc.co.uk/2/hi/uk_news/politics/5411954.stm).

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Fri May 30, 08 07:46 PM | Category: All

On my wall, I have a picture of a Muslim woman shrouded in a burka[1].

Beside it is a picture of an American beauty contestant, wearing nothing but a bikini.

One woman is totally hidden from the public; the other is totally exposed.  These two extremes say a great deal about the clash of so-called......

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Fri May 30, 08 05:04 PM | Category: woman

Rights of a Wife

The Quran states:

“And among His signs is that He created for you mates from among yourselves that you may live in tranquility with them, and He has put love and mercy between you; Verily, in that are signs for people who reflect.” (Quran 30:21)

Marriage is therefore not just a physical or emotional necessity but, in fact, a sign from God! It is a relationship of mutual rights and obligations based on divine guidance.  God created men and women with complimentary natures and, in the Quran, He laid out a system of laws to support harmonious interaction between the sexes.

“…They are your garments and you are their garments….” (Quran 2:187)

Clothing provides physical protection and covers the beauty and faults of the body.  Likewise, a spouse is viewed this way.  Each protects the other and hides the faults and compliments the characteristics of the spouse.  To foster the love and security that comes with marriage, Muslim wives have various rights.  The first of the wife’s rights is to receive mahr, a gift from the husband, which is part of the marriage contract and required for the legality of the marriage.

The second right of a wife is maintenance.  Despite any wealth she may have, her husband is obligated to provide her with food, shelter and clothing.  He is not forced, however, to spend beyond his capability and his wife is not entitled to make unreasonable demands.  The Quran states:

“Let the man of means spend according to his means, and the man whose resources are restricted, let him spend according to what God has given him.  God puts no burden on any person beyond what He has given him.” (Quran 65:7)

God tells us men are guardians over women and are afforded the leadership in the family.  His responsibility for obeying God extends to guiding his family to obey God at all times.

A wife’s rights also extend beyond material needs.  She has the right to kind treatment.  The Prophet said:

“The most perfect believers are the best in conduct.  And the best of you are those who are the best to their wives.”

God tells us He created mates and put love, mercy and tranquility between them.

Both men and women have a need for companionship and sexual needs, and marriage is designed to fulfill those needs.  For one spouse to deny this satisfaction to the other, the temptation exists to seek it elsewhere.
Duties of a Wife

With rights come responsibilities.  Therefore, wives have certain obligations to their husbands.  The Quran states:

“…The good women in the absence of their husbands guard their rights as God has enjoined upon them to be guarded….”(Quran 4:34)

A wife is to keep her husband’s secrets and protect their marital privacy.  Issues of intimacy or faults of his that would dishonor him, are not to be shared by the wife, just as he is expected to guard her honor.

A wife must also guard her husband’s property.  She must safeguard his home and possessions, to the best of her ability, from theft or damage.  She should manage the household affairs wisely so as to prevent loss or waste.  She should not allow anyone to enter the house whom her husband dislikes nor incur any expenses of which her husband disapproves.

A Muslim woman must cooperate and coordinate with her husband.  There cannot, however, be cooperation with a man who is disobedient to God.  She should not fulfill his requests if he wants her to do something unlawful.  A husband also should not take advantage of his wife, but be considerate of her needs and happiness.
Conclusion

The Quran states:

“And it befits not a believing man or a believing woman, when God and His Messenger have decided on an affair (for them), that they should (after that) claim any say in their affair; and whoso is rebellious to God and His Messenger, he verily goes astray in error manifest.” (Quran 33:36)

The Muslim woman was given a role, duties and rights 1400 years ago that most women do not enjoy today in the West.  These are from God and are designed to keep balance in society; what may seem unjust or missing in one place is compensated for or explained in another place.  Islam is a complete way of life.
Previous: Women’s Liberation through Islam (part 1 of 2): The Various Rights Islam Gives to Women   

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Fri May 30, 08 04:58 PM | Category: woman

Today people think that women are liberated in the West and that the Women’s liberation movement began in the 20th century.  Actually, the women’s liberation movement was not begun by women, but was revealed by God to a man in the seventh century by the name of Muhammad, may the mercy......

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Fri May 30, 08 04:54 PM | Category: woman

Kind Treatment of Wives

God instructs men to be nice to their wives and to treat them well to the best of their ability:

“…And live with them in kindness…” (Quran 4:19)

The Messenger of God said, The most perfect of believers in belief is the best of them in character.  The best of you are those who are the best to their women.’[1]  The Prophet of Mercy tells us that a husband’s treatment of his wife reflects a Muslim’s good character, which in turn is a reflection of the man’s faith.  How can a Muslim husband be good to his wife?  He should smile, not hurt her emotionally, remove anything that will harm her, treat her gently, and be patient with her.

Being nice includes good communication.  A husband should be willing to open up, and be willing to listen to his wife.  Many times a husband wants to air his frustrations (like work).  He should not forget to ask her about what annoys her (like when children would not do their homework).  A husband should not talk about important things with her when he or his wife is angry, tired, or hungry.  Communication, compromise, and consideration are the cornerstone of marriage.

Being nice includes encouraging one’s wife.  The most meaningful admiration comes from a sincere heart that notices what really matters — what the wife really values.  So a husband should ask himself what she feels most insecure about and discover what she values.  That is the wife’s sweet spot of praise.  The more the husband compliments it, the more the wife will admire it, the more on target this healthy habit will be.  Kind words are like, “I like the way you think,” “You look beautiful in those clothes,” and “I love hearing your voice on the phone.”

Human beings are imperfect.  The Messenger of God said, “A believing man should not hate a believing woman.  If he dislikes something in her character, he should be pleased with some other trait of hers.”[2]  A man should not hate his wife because if he dislikes something in her, he will find something he likes about her if he gives it a chance.  One way to be aware of what he likes in his wife is for the husband to make a list of a half dozen things he appreciates about her.  Marriage experts recommend that one be as specific as possible and focus on character traits — just as the Prophet of Islam recommended, not just what she does for the husband.  For example, a husband may appreciate the way she arranges his clean laundry, but the underlying character trait may be that she is thoughtful.  The husband should consider admirable traits such as being compassionate, generous, kind, devout, creative, elegant, honest, affectionate, energetic, gentle, optimistic, committed, faithful, confident, cheerful, and so on.  A husband should give himself some time to construct this list, and review it in times of conflict when he is most likely to feel averse towards his wife.  It will help him be more aware of his wife’s good attributes and far more likely to compliment them.

A companion asked the Prophet of God what is the right of a wife over her husband?’  He said, “That you feed her when you eat and clothe her when you clothe yourself and do not strike her face.  Do not malign her and do not keep apart from her, except in the house.”[3]

Conflict in marriage is virtually inevitable and it leads to lot of anger.  Although anger is one of the most difficult emotions to manage, the first step toward controlling it can be learning how to forgive those who hurt us.  In case of conflict, a husband should not stop talking to his wife and emotionally hurt her, but he may stop sleeping in the same bed if it will improve the situation.  Under no circumstance, even when he is angry or somehow feels justified, is a husband allowed to malign her by using hurtful words or cause her any injury.

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Fri May 30, 08 04:46 PM | Category: WHO IS GOD

Introduction

‘What is the meaning and purpose of life?’  This is, perhaps, the most important question that has ever been asked.  Throughout the ages, philosophers have considered it to be the most fundamental question.  Scientists, historians, philosophers, writers, psychologist......

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Fri May 30, 08 04:04 PM | Category: WHO IS GOD

At some point in our lives, everybody asks the big questions: “Who made us,” and “Why are we here?”

So who did make us?  Atheists speak of the Big Bang and evolution, whereas......

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Fri May 30, 08 03:57 PM | Category: All

Perhaps the best way to begin a discussion of the relationship between Islam and peace and security is to deal with a statement that is heard often these days: “Islam means peace.”  If the one making this statement means that the actual meaning of the word “Islam” is “peac......

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Fri May 30, 08 03:43 PM | Category: WHO IS MOHMMUD

During the centuries of the Crusades, all sorts of slanders were invented against the Prophet Muhammad, may the mercy and blessings of God be upon him.  With the birth of the modern age, however, marked with religious tolerance and freedom of thought, there has been a great change in the approach......

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