Hi all..Its been a long time since I log in here~...
huhuhuhu~..Its been a busy month rite now for me~...And I dont even have enough time to watch the movies that download~!!
..lol~...
ok now 
I want to share with all of you a great article by the author of the famous "The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People", Stephen Covey~.
..Its really an interesting article~..Its a bit long, but i hope you all will read untill finish~..Ok. read and enjoy~...
Discover the
90/10 Principle.
It will change your life (at least the way you react to situations).
What is this principle?
10% of life is made up of what happens to you.
90% of life is
decided by how you react.
What does this mean? We really have no control over 10% of what happens
to us.
We cannot stop the car from breaking down. The plane will be late
arriving, which throws our whole schedule off. A driver may cut us off
in traffic.
We have
no control over this 10%. The other 90% is different. You
determine the other
90%.
How? ....By your reaction.
You cannot control a red light. but you can control your reaction. Don't
let people fool you; YOU can control how you react.
Let's use an example.
You are eating breakfast with your family. Your daughter knocks over a
cup of coffee onto your business shirt. You have no control over what
just happened.
What happens next will be determined by how you react.
You curse.
You harshly scold your daughter for knocking the cup over. She breaks
down in tears. After scolding her, you turn to your spouse and criticize
her for placing the cup too close to the edge of the table. A short
verbal battle follows. You storm upstairs and change your shirt. Back
downstairs, you find your daughter has been too busy crying to finish
breakfast and get ready for school. She misses the bus.
Your spouse must leave immediately for work. You rush to the car and
drive your daughter to school. Because you are late, you drive 40 miles
an hour in a 30 mph speed limit.
After a 15-minute delay and throwing $60 traffic fine away, you arrive
at school. Your daughter runs into the building without saying goodbye.
After arriving at the office 20 minutes late, you find you forgot your
briefcase.
Your day has started terrible. As it continues, it seems to get worse
and worse. You look forward to coming home.
When you arrive home, you find small wedge in your relationship with
your spouse and daughter.
Why? .. Because of how you reacted in the morning.
Why did you have a bad day?
A) Did the coffee cause it?
B) Did your daughter cause it?
C) Did the policeman cause it?
D) Did you cause it?
The answer is "D".
You had no control over what happened with the coffee. How you reacted
in those 5 seconds is what caused your bad day.
Here is what could have and should have happened.
Coffee splashes over you. Your daughter is about to cry. You gently say,
"Its ok honey, you just need to be more careful next time".
Grabbing a
towel you rush upstairs. After grabbing a new shirt and your briefcase,
you come back down in time to look through the window and see your child
getting on the bus. She turns and waves. You arrive 5 minutes early and
cheerfully greet the staff. Your boss comments on how good the day you
are having.
Notice the difference?
Two different scenarios. Both started the same. Both ended different.
Why?
Because of how you REACTED.
You
really do not have any control over 10% of what happens.
The other 90% was
determined by your reaction.
Here are some ways to apply the 90/10 principle. If someone says
something negative about you, don't be a sponge. Let the attack roll off
like water on glass. You don't have to let the negative comment affect
you!
React properly and it will not ruin your day. A wrong reaction could
result in losing a friend, being fired, getting stressed out etc.
How do you react if someone cuts you off in traffic? Do you lose your
temper? Pound on the steering wheel? A friend of mine had the steering
wheel fall off) Do you curse? Does your blood pressure skyrocket? Do you
try and bump them?
WHO CARES if you arrive ten seconds later at work? Why let the cars ruin
your drive?
Remember the 90/10 principle, and do not worry about it.
You are told you lost your job.
Why lose sleep and get irritated? It will work out. Use your worrying
energy and time into finding another job.
The plane is late; it is going to mangle your schedule for the day. Why
take outpour frustration on the flight attendant? She has no control
over what is going on.
Use your time to study, get to know the other passenger. Why get
stressed out? It will just make things worse.
Now you know the 90-10 principle. Apply it and you will be amazed at the
results. You will lose nothing if you try it. The 90-10 principle is
incredible. Very few know and apply this principle.
The result?
Millions of people are suffering from undeserved stress, trials,
problems and heartache. We all must understand and apply the 90/10
principle.
It CAN change your life!!!
Interested, isnt it?...heheheheheh~...
I hope you all get the message that he want to deliver~..see you later~!!..
