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My new girlfriend (PHOTO!)
Size: Large, Medium, Small Wed Aug 20, 08 05:28 AM | Category: Personal Views
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Dear reader,

In my previous post I mentioned that I broke up with my former girlfriend. She was nice, but it didn't work out eventually and I cheated on her which when I told her ofcourse ended the relationship.

But since I cheated with this new woman, we really start to like eachother. We know eachother for over 6 year and she claims to have already had an eye on me since 2003.  I'd really like to engage in a relationship with this woman, there are only a few  considirations I have to make. First of all, she's 12 years older than I am. This isn't really much of a problem, because I'm almost 26 and she is almost 38. Maybe some people will find this odd, but love's ways are mysterious. The other consideration I have to make is about the fact that this new woman in my life, already has a daughter from a previous relationship. The kid is 9 years old, and I really feel that when I wanna have the MILF I should also accept and care for the child. My parents were divorced when I was 2 years old and I've missed a father figure until I was 11. Now I have a stephfather, and he such a great guy that I actually call him Dad, my biological father is out of the picture.

I really admire my stephfather for accepting me as his son, and I would like to be the same for a daughter of my girlfriend. I feel obligated in a way to this. You just can't have all the pleasure but none of the burden in a relationship.

What do you think? Should I engage with this woman. We've slept together for a few nights now, and we feel much for eachother. I really feel like I'm falling in love again. But my rational mind is still protesting against engaging in such a responsibility.

Love is more complicated than brain-surgery. Help me with my feelings!!!

To convince you, or me, or whatever, here is her picture, she agreed to it: MILF_helena

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mcdaktari Wed Aug 20, 08 01:17 PM

Hi Zendex, the only thing i can say to you is, think good before you do something. I had almost the same situation, my ex was 10 years older but that means nothing when you love her, but i wil not do it again because there will be problems later i think. so think with your heart not with your dick


pronaholtz Wed Aug 20, 08 01:57 PM

and more ....................

on the picture , here we have 3 differents " things " .

a friendship , so strong can be it , need not always love .

human relation can have more sense.

I do not go into detail about it , here in this Topic .

but if anybody want begin a real " love story " .

that not a simply decision .

what is built can be destroyed. but nothing seriously can be build of a destroyed relation .

yourself ONLY can take the decision to engaged or not .

let a little time in the time can be help to see better about .....

i hope you find the way .

have my vote for this post .

We can feel that we cannot see .
levied (levy) Thu Aug 21, 08 04:36 AM

Well I guess it a great problem if it would happen to me. You know, if you are a gal and your boyfriend is 10+ years older than you, that's ok. But while the situation reverses, it will be a little bit intractable.

My suggestion is, look before you leap. Think about if two of you married, after your passion passed, your daughter(as you just said) may bring a lot of responsibilities to you. And you may tired before you could afford. Maybe I'm a little meddlesome but, this is my suggestion. :)


FARAZ_FRANK777 (FRANK DARIUS) Fri Aug 22, 08 10:52 AM

FRANK DARIUS
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Guest Sat Aug 23, 08 08:49 AM

think hard and follow your heart m8 do what you feel is right not what is right.


tarantxon (TarAntXon) Sun Aug 24, 08 12:41 PM

Hi Xendex, this is indeed a complex situation, but love is blind and we all are easily victims of what we project onto our partners when we want to see a relationship work.

The question is: are you sure you want to dive into the MAIN permanent relationship of your life?

Do you think you want to have your own children and raise them from birth or would you be happy with only her daughter?

Please consider your new friend's point of view, she may not be able to wait for you to be ready to be a father, her "clock" is ticking louder in her head than it will ever in yours!

Also did you think that your parents splitting up when you were two years old gave you the feeling that sometimes relationships cannot last and maybe do you think that if your relationship with your new girlfriend may not last this would be OK?

I'm sure you are talking a lot to each other and share your dreams, but where do you imagine yourselves in 5, 10, 20 years' time?

Think about it and please don't get married until you know for sure, you won't just be breaking one heart this time.


Zendex Tue Aug 26, 08 04:30 AM

Thanx for emphasizing. For now the relationship is LAT, we'll just have to find out if it lasts, as I look at it now - I could grow old with this women... but ofcourse, there's a pretty large chance she will die first and I'll by then also be old and left alone. Heart, brains ... it remains a difficult matter.

Life is what you make it.
dave195809 (south african dave) Tue Aug 26, 08 05:42 AM

be positive and it will last just love her that is all they want and romance voted bro

To all the fantastic people on bitcomet love you all
esther Fri Aug 29, 08 04:07 PM

hey zendex, she doesn't only sounds oke but she is oke, your heart is telling you what to do don't worry it will be oke



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